These questions can be answered individually or together as a means of open discussion:
- Who brought up the idea of couple’s therapy first, and for what identified reason?
- What degree of commitment do you want to make regarding the issue?
- How much time and space can be devoted?
- What is your initial hope/goal/change to be achieved through couple’s therapy?
- What is your favorite thing about the other person?
- What about in yourself?
- What do you admire most about your partner?
- What degree of trust do you have in your partner?
- How do you hope your partner will help you improve/maintain the relationship?
- How do you want to help keep and improve the relationship?
- What are your supports to the relationship at this time?
- Friends, family, others, time, resources, etc.?
- What are your limitations to consider?
- social liabilities, availability, lack of resources, etc.?
- What are the living arrangements expected to be in the future?
- together or separate, with children or no, other adults/partners/family members?
- If you have children, what kind of parenting style are you using?
- co-parenting, head of household, division of labor/duties/depts, etc.
- How much space and time is devoted to being together without distraction or others?
- Is this enough for each person?
- How did you first meet?
- What where the expectations from the beginning and how have they changed?
- How important are any of the following activities to each of you, how are the needs met?
- Having alone time
- Talking with each other
- Doing domestic chores together
- Traveling (alone and together)
- Engaging in live shows, social gatherings, media
- How do your social activities affect the relationship?
- Positive, negative, neutral, unsure, mixed?
- How do public obligations like parenting or working together affect the relationship?
- What relationships exist around the primary one that are of importance to know about?
- What are the boundaries, influences, or obligations with these relationships?
- Is there active/historic conflict in the relationship?
- What efforts have already been made to resolve conflict in the relationship?
- What relationship does each person have with substances, and how does it affect the partner?
- Any behavioral addiction/pattern to consider/talk about?
- What thoughts, feelings, or expressions have come up while reviewing these questions?
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